Friday, October 22

I Don’t Hate Men. They Are Simply Irrelevant to My Life. [COMMENTARY]

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I don’t hate men. They are simply irrelevant to my life.

When people ask me why I hate men I just answer the above.  And when I think about it, it is true.

Almost all my friends are women, I live with women, and I am in groups and organizations that are all women.  And of those women, most are Lesbians.

I think the idea of being able to do without men must mean I hate them, but it is not the case.  Whenever I need something, I look to women for support.  When I write, I write about women.  Because our herstory has mostly been erased, I study what women have done.  So much of what we depend on was created by women.  And in many cases some man took credit for it.  Did you know the cotton gin was created by Eli’s wife?

Women are amazing writers, poets, playwrights, and movie directors.  With so much to do, I don’t have time to pay attention to what men are doing.  And I dare say that is true for many, many women.  And not all of them are Lesbians.  Straight, married women have shown me how useless men can be.

When I need something repaired, I call our home warranty company.  Sometimes they send a woman and I am always glad to see the sisters working.  When they send a man, it does not make any difference what man, just so long as he is a repair man.  So even when a function is provided by a man, who he is, is still irrelevant.

Yes I have sons and grandsons and great grandsons but they all live their lives and I live mine.  I do not need them for support.  I love them but know they are not on my team.  They benefit from our sexist society much more than I ever will.

Women are trained from birth to be in response to men, to respond to what they say, what they think, and what they do.  Feminism has taught me that I am safer, smarter, more creative, and more constructive when I am on my own path.

With female ancestors like QUEEN ELIZABETH the first , NATALIE BARNEY, JUNE JORDAN, MARY BAKER EDDY, SOJOURNER TRUTH, SUSAN B ANTHONY, AUDRE LORDE,  GEORGIA O’KEEFE, HARRIETT TUBMAN AND SACAJAWEA, why would I need a man?

These are the people i learn from.  How did they survive and triumph? These are the skills I need and they cannot come from any man who has been lifted up since birth. 🔥

About Author

Sally Tatnall is the Co-Director of the Steering Committee for Old Lesbians Organizing Change (OLOC). She has been an activist all her life and feels lucky to be continuing her activism as part of OLOC in these late years of life. She is especially happy to be involved with one of the few remaining woman/lesbian only spaces left on the planet.

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